Despite the mean people, the unkind people, the terrible people, the people who hurt kids, there are stars among us! Not the pop stars or TV/Movie stars, though those people are amazingly talented (most of them, at least) but the ones that shine brightly. The kind, smart, thoughtful, loyal, funny, and amazing people that bring joy to our lives. I have had experiences with mean people, two-faced friends, and someone that I was convinced was trying to kill me (he wasn't, contact me if you want to hear the story). There are certain ways to find "your people" even if you are shy and quiet. And are the people you surround yourself with all stars? Or are some just airplanes, look carefully!
1. Think Hard
- When you're around this person, do you feel unloved, not cared for, or not accepted the way you are?
- After being with this person, do you feel down or bad about yourself?
- Do you feel like you have to change or hide things to be with this person?
- Does this person want you for the wrong reason?
- Do you feel uncomfortable around this person?
If you said yes, then this person is not your lucky star, so don't waste your wish. But don't worry, there are billions of people on this planet, so just keep looking!
2. Give it Time
Though sometimes relationships form in seconds, most are gradual, so don't push or force a relationship on someone. It takes time to get to know people, so make sure you talk and spend time with them. You may find traits about people that you don't like, they may find characteristics about you that they dislike. The relationship could be one-sided, meaning only one person is making an effort. Give the relationship time, so you can tell whether it is a keeper or not. Also, every person doesn't have to be the only one. You can have many friends, so even if you aren't close, the relationship might be nice from a different perspective or with a different label.
3. Chill
Though websites, and groups, and other strategies for meeting people are great, they aren't always necessary. You will meet many other people just going about daily life. If you wait, maybe sit back a bit, someone will be uncovered, and maybe they are a star. Or, you could do the opposite, be a bit more friendly, make an effort to talk. Whichever strategy is right for you, use it, but be sure not to push it to far.